As I mentioned in a previous post, I was told while
pregnant with Hazel that when she was born I should spend time with Moses while
she slept, presumably because she would require most of my attention while
awake and this way Moses would still enjoy some quality one-on-one mum time. It’s
great advice, but it assumes that the baby will kindly stagger her sleep
times; mine obviously never received that memo. In reality, they’re usually both awake at the same time, which means a lot of my day
involves being yelled at by one child while I tend to the needs of the other,
or, if I put my foot down and insist on doing something extravagant for myself
like eating breakfast or showering, being yelled at by both children
at the same time.
Throughout my pregnancy with Hazel I never worried
that I’d have enough love to cover both her and Moses, I knew I would. It turns
out my time is harder than my heart to divide. I expected to be my best mothery
self for both kids, making the most of the moments I had alone with each;
instead, there isn’t much time alone with either, and I mostly feel like I’m split in
two (three, if I include myself), always neglecting at least one person.
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Since Hazel arrived, I’ve noticed how limited Mo’s energy and volume settings are.
The other day I caught
myself feeling irritated and thinking, “This boy is driving me crazy!” I realised not long after that he was just
acting like a three-year-old, and in fact it’s been me driving myself crazy by expecting him not to.
Glad you're chronicling this! I need to learn :)
ReplyDeleteYou were on my mind when I was writing this: "Mustn't sound too overwhelmed so as not to freak Karen out." :)
DeleteGosh, that sounds tough! Does that mean their sleeps coincide (assuming Mo is still having a sleep)? Because I would imagine with a newborn your energy is quite limited in the first place!
ReplyDeleteIt does mean their sleeps coincide (or at least overlap), which gives me a chance to write blog posts like this one (when I should maybe be napping instead)... :) I think Mo's the one missing out most; I'm still getting used to that.
DeleteYes, I can imagine that's really tough! A big transition for both of you.
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