Saturday, March 31, 2012
Friday, March 30, 2012
Epiphany
from here |
Not too long ago, a chaplain friend asked a stack of people
to help her answer some questions she’d been asked by year 6 kids at her school, and I did some proofreading of the final booklet. Part of my husband's response to the question, “God, why don't you come down to
earth to visit us?”, was this:
Some people like to think of the world as having an upstairs and a downstairs. They think that God lives up top, we live down the bottom, and mostly we keep to ourselves. But that's not the way that the Bible sees things. The Bible tells us that God is always here! When a baby is born God is there. When people gather together God is there with them. When we stand up or when we sit down God knows about it. God is part of every bit of our lives! He knows the tiniest details like the number of hairs on our heads.
I was surprised by how many of the answers challenged me to think through my own beliefs; year 6 kids ask hard questions! I agree with my husband's response in theory, although in practice I think I’m guilty of splitting the world in two. I know I’ve often
(sometimes uncomfortably) assumed that it was right to elevate ministry positions
to God’s ‘upstairs’, forgetting that “The
earth is the LORD’s, and everything in it, the world, and all who live in it”
(Psalm 24:1) and there’s only one storey in this very big house. But what he wrote means that a minister is no more Christian than
a Christian dentist or train driver, and God is no less present in the days of
a cleaner or an engineer than He is with an MTSer or a missionary.
It was suggested to me recently that perhaps
sacrificing me-stuff in order to let my husband pursue him-stuff was easier for
me because he was in ministry. I disagreed then for non-theological reasons,
but that conversation was the first thing I thought of while processing my
husband’s answer. If it is easier for me
to give up time for my husband’s sake, it’s not because he’s doing special God
stuff which therefore trumps anything downstairsy I’d potentially be interested
in doing. Our lives are equally God-filled, even though he spends his days
studying theology and I spend mine finding new and exciting ways to say “No” to
my defiant toddler. And if a day comes when we sense I’m being called to wax
legs or start my Moody Groovers classes, my husband’s sacrifice to make time
for me will be no bigger than mine has been for him.
This is currently making my brain explode.
This is currently making my brain explode.
Wednesday, March 28, 2012
Meat, vegies and good gifts
from here |
Eating Meat by Jonathan Safran Foer has been on my to-read list
for over a year now, but I haven’t brought myself to actually borrow it from
the library knowing that I’d probably be hesitant to touch a steak again if I
did. But then a friend wrote an article called Serving the Lord at Supper, and I recently clicked on the link and
read it because that’s what friends do, little supposing that it would be the thing that made me
hesitant to touch a steak again. I emailed it to my husband with the subject
line “Become a vegetarian or people will DIE,” which sparked a fearful but
decisive conversation between us about our family’s need to eat far less if not
zero meat in future, and from then on we... Well, we went along on our merry
ways pretending that we’d never seen the article or decided to move towards
becoming vegetarian-ish. We’re both extremely skilled at denial and pretending
to forget things that bother us, which is perhaps one reason we‘re still in the
process of marriage counselling.
But a move to a new place seems like the perfect
opportunity for a move to new ways, and it’s somewhat reassuring to know that
we’re in a better position to start our eat-less-meat project than other
vegetarians we know of, seeing as we actually like eating vegetables and
legumes. I can salivate just as easily over a well-described vegetarian meal as
a meaty one. My son is bananas for kidney beans and I have to stop him from
taking bites out of the raw broccoli in the trolley at the shops. My husband
was raised with tofu and has been obsessed with Red Lentil Loaf since we tried
out the recipe last year. We’ll have options. And we’re not planning to go cold
tofurkey, for adjustment and health reasons (though I used to have iron levels
“like a boy’s” (as a nurse at the blood bank once described them), in recent
years they’ve slipped closer to the anaemic end of the iron-level spectrum. I’d
prefer to keep them as manly as possible, so I plan to find out more about
good beef).
Back to the article I mentioned: I’ve had
conversations with other Christians in which we’ve both/all agreed that it’s soooo
hard for us to look different from the world these days, and my emphatic nods
and “Hear, hear”s have been sincere. But even then I knew, as I know it now, that I can spend far less time and money on myself than I do, and I know
that I can give far more to those in need. (As a long aside, it seems that even
those pressed for time seem to make it to a Bible study group each week;
perhaps Christian guilt-trips would be better aimed at how we’re doing at
loving our neighbours rather than how many churchy gatherings we’ve attended –
after all, “Religion that God our father accepts as pure and faultless is this:
to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from
being polluted by the world” (James 1:27). If our Bible studies aren’t one of
the key things driving us to get out and live more like Jesus amongst the needy,
what’s the point of them?)
Looking different isn’t hard because I can’t think of
things to do to look different, it’s hard because I lean towards being self-centred
and unwilling to make sacrifices for other people, particularly those who can
be easily avoided and therefore ignored as I gad about, enjoying my wealthy and
privileged life. I take God’s gifts and treat them like they’re wages, like I deserved to be born into this land of
plenty and therefore should be allowed to use the good things I’m blessed with
for my own pleasure and entertainment (giving a little here and there to Compassion and CMS, of course, like a good Christian). I hold on too tightly and am
slow to let go of things I should be sharing around, and I hate this about myself.
So I’m trading some of my beef for beans and some of my chicken for chick peas
as a starting point in my effort to better marry my faith with my daily life, in part because
Rachel’s article revealed yet more ugliness
in me that needs to be starved, and in part because Jesus’ story in Matthew 25
(verses 31-45) scares me:
When the Son of Man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, he will sit on his glorious throne. All the nations will be gathered before him, and he will separate the people one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats. He will put the sheep on his right and the goats on his left.Then the King will say to those on his right, “Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.”Then the righteous will answer him, “Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?”The King will reply, “Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.”Then he will say to those on his left, “Depart from me, you who are cursed, into the eternal fire prepared for the devil and his angels. For I was hungry and you gave me nothing to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me nothing to drink, I was a stranger and you did not invite me in, I needed clothes and you did not clothe me, I was sick and in prison and you did not look after me.”They also will answer, “Lord, when did we see you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or needing clothes or sick or in prison, and did not help you?”He will reply, “Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.”
Tuesday, March 27, 2012
Quote of the fortnight
I'm procrastinating, can you tell? |
Me: “Do you sell pesto?”
Employee at Woolies: “Er... Is that, like, an insect
spray?”
Saturday, March 24, 2012
Women of Letters and other correspondence
Mobile phone + lamp light = atrocious photo |
My
darling husband bought me Women of
Letters: Reviving the Lost Art of Correspondence for my birthday, because he knows I’m in love with Marieke Hardy
and he’s secure enough to accept that (it's curated by Hardy and Michaela McGuire). The book is a compilation of letters
that were written and read by their writer/actor/musician/politician/etc. authors
at various Women (and Men) of Letters events that have been
happening around the country; tickets to one of these events was my husband’s
first idea for a gift, but they disappear quickly. I’m glad I ended up with his
backup plan, though, because this is a book I’ll reread (at least parts of) over and
over again.
The
letters are grouped in themes, such as “To the song I wish I’d written” or “To
my twelve-year-old self,” and part of my enjoyment of the book was thinking
through the letter I’d have written if challenged with the same topics. I didn’t
enjoy all of the letters, but I loved some. Many made me smile, and a couple
made me really laugh: Jane Clifton’s letter “To the best present I ever
received” was one, and Sophie Braham’s love letter to email was another. There’s
a section written by men, “To the woman who changed my life,” and almost all of
them made me cry. The guys seemed to be much more honest than many of the women
(perhaps because of the topic), and that section was/is my favourite by far.
It’s
been a great book for reading over the last couple of weeks, as the letters are
short (even the long ones), and therefore perfect for the small amounts of
reading time I’ve snatched in between unpacking a ridiculous number of boxes and
sleep. (I should warn you, however, that the shortness also means it’s dangerously
easy to convince yourself that getting through just one more letter won’t take
too long, and then you think maybe you’ll just finish that whole section, and
then before you know it it’s 12:30am and you’re reading with only one eye open (and
that’s only because you’re holding your eyelid up.)) You should definitely check
out this book, or buy it for someone who has a crush on Marieke Hardy. They’ll
love you for it, trust me.
On
the topic of letters, I’ve taken to writing more regularly to people I’d
usually only talk about writing to, and I’m always overly thrilled when they respond.
When this blog was but an infant, I wrote to John Stackhouse to ask him if I
could use a picture of his book cover for my review, and his reply made my heart
want to burst with delight and gratitude:
And
though it was only a line, I’ve still held on to Anthony Albanese’s response to
my passionate plea for him to do the right thing and vote for Kevin Rudd during
the ALP leadership showdown thing last month:
Finally,
the following letter is from my dear Grandma, who writes here in response to the
email I sent to thank her for the money she’d given me for my birthday. For a
little more context: I told her I was planning to buy some new clothes, and she
thinks I wear too much black (she’s sure this is why I feel depressed sometimes):
Monday, March 19, 2012
Growing up
More than having a child ever did, living in a house
with a dishwasher and a garden shed makes me feel like I’m expected to be an adult. IT'S FREAKING ME OUT. I hear myself saying absurd things like, “Ooh, I could sand
that back and paint it!” For the first time ever, our shopping lists include hose
reels and undercoat. I feel like a fraud. I’m scared the Grown Up Police are
going to show up at our door, give me the Weed Test (“That one looks pretty so it
mustn’t be a weed,” I’d say
confidently, thus failing), then confiscate my Bunnings purchases and escort me
back to an apartment where I belong.
Friday, March 16, 2012
A letter to the apartment that was
To my dear former apartment,
It sends a pang through my heart to add ‘former’ to
that greeting, beloved. I still can’t quite believe that you’re no longer mine.
You’ve been a part of our family for a little longer than our son; he was conceived
within your walls, and though my husband went to sleep the night our baby
finally decided to join us on the outside, you were my constant company as I
paced back and forward between rooms during contractions. You were our son’s
first home.
It was through you that we met our beautiful
neighbours: Deb and Pip, who graciously coped with sharing a wall with our
noisy newborn and encouraged me as a bewildered young mum; Helen, who loved our
son like her own grandchild, bringing him toys (which have run out of batteries
now, thank God) and always stopping for a chat each time she saw us; Coco, who supplied
us with banana breads and that massive tray of sushi one night at 10pm, telling
us it had to be eaten before the next day; Maria, who lived next door and would
call out hellos from the garden or her balcony, who twice invited us over to
hang out in her glass-filled-and-absolutely-not-child-proof lounge room while
she made us fresh orange juice.
If only you’d had three bedrooms rather than two, were
on the ground floor rather than the second, had a yard rather than a balcony
and were located in the outer rather than inner west, we’d have stayed. Alas...
Our footprints have now been steamed from your carpets
and our grubby smudges Magic Erasered from your walls. You are once again a blank
stage, ready for the next players to arrive and act out their scenes. You have
nothing to remember us by, indeed, no reason to remember us, just one family
out of the many who will pass through you over time. I, however, will remember
you. I’ll remember family and meals and Bible studies and friends, lessons
about motherhood and marriage and growing up. I have these photos now, which
show you nearly empty, though I’ll remember you full of love and life. And they
show you bathed in warm light, which is how you will remain forever, in my heart.
Farewell, my love.
Belle
Sunday, March 11, 2012
Glenmore Park
Before we even knew we’d be moving to Glenmore Park, I’d
been told (repeatedly) that the suburb was a rabbit warren. It seems the locals
have been programmed to make a comment about the bendy roads or the stress on car
tyres as soon as the place is mentioned; I’ve heard the words “rabbit” and “warren”
more times over the last few months than I have before in my entire life.
Anywho, it turns out Glenmore Park is seriously like a
rabbit warren. We went to visit our new house on Friday afternoon after signing the
lease, and if I wasn’t following my husband on his motorbike I would have had
to pull over to re-check the directions. There are approximately three straight
roads in the entire suburb; all of the others wind this way and that like a
drunk and if you were to drive along them too fast or for too long you’d risk
vomiting on arrival at your destination. Here is a picture of a normal suburb (Penrith):
And here is a picture of Glenmore Park:
Our place is right in the middle.
I should be looking for things I’ll love about living
out there, but I’m beyond the excited, “YAY, we finally got a place!” stage and am currently
hovering around the sad, “Maybe if I just write blog posts instead of packing we won’t
ever have to move and we’ll be able to stay here forever and live happily ever
after” stage. It’s been a busy week of lasts – last time changing the sheets at
this place, last time the Palace Cinema in Leichhardt will be just down the road, last time I can easily go out with a friend for a giant
cookie and gelato sandwich in Newtown, last time we visit this or that park – and I’m starting to feel bummed about
the whole move.
Our new place is so nice, the backyard is amazing, the
carpet is new and squishy and a yummy shade of brown. We'll be closer to Nanna and Pop. It won't take us 45 minutes to get to church. We’ll be able to have a Bible study group meet at our house and start
getting to know our church family so much better.
And we’ll at least be safe if ever a fox comes sniffing around one of the entrances.
Friday, March 9, 2012
Sleep
The photo above was taken early in our married life to add weight to my accusation that my husband was too often taking up more than his half of the bed.
I usually don’t read the ‘Odd Spot’s on Libra
packaging, but this one caught my eye: “The average person falls asleep in
seven minutes”. SEVEN MINUTES! I
haven’t even finished getting comfortable by that stage, let alone revised the
day’s activities and conversations, prayed about the way I spent my time, tried
to figure out which day of the week it is and then vaguely planned the following
day’s activities, put a reminder in my phone to tell my husband about that funny
thing my son did at the park, wondered if my son will be warm enough tonight, crept into
his room to check the temperature, turned the fan off, flopped back into bed, re-started the
getting-comfortable process while wondering how my friend’s first book club
went, prayed for her and the group, thought about starting one myself after we’ve
moved, imagined the flier I could make to invite people, thought about which
book we’d start with, pictured a meal together with my new book club friends, repositioned
my pillow, prayed about opportunities to meet people when we’re in Glenmore
Park, imagined how I’ll arrange the furniture in our new house, tossed up the pros and cons of a tiled lounge area, designed a giant rug, panicked
about packing, written a blog post in my head about how hard it is to fall asleep,
considered getting up to type it, decided not to, worked out whether some cereal
would help me drift off, decided no, stretched my calf muscles, added another reminder
to my phone about reporting my income to Centrelink, and rolled over.
Most nights I wait for at least an hour before sleep
shows up. My husband, on the other hand, is one of those people who bring the
average waaaaaaaaaaaay down, balancing out my lengthy pre-sleep sessions by
dropping off within a few minutes of adjusting the covers and flipping onto his
tummy. Sometimes I’m shocked to hear him snoring what feels like seconds after
he’s kissed me goodnight. The other night I was reading my book and he snorted
loudly and woke himself up; he was too confused to see the funny side of it
but it had me sniggering for ages. Occasionally he also talks in his sleep for my
entertainment, and I talk back. Once I’ve finishing laughing quietly I have to write our conversation down so
that I can tell him about it in the morning.
I sometimes catch myself lying awake and wondering
about things I really don’t need to lie awake wondering about. At the end of
last year, the night after my husband mentioned that the college library wouldn’t
be loaning books until January because they were doing a stocktake, we hadn’t
been in bed for long when I whispered, “Are you still awake?” He left my
question hanging for approximately 20 seconds before responding with a
half-hearted, “Mm.” “How do you think they stocktake a library?!” I asked. “Do
they print out a list of all of their books and walk along the shelves ticking
them off one by one? And then go back to their computer and mark the missing
ones?” It didn't take me long to realise how ridiculous these questions would seem to my husband.
I then had to try to suppress my giggles for the next couple of minutes because we’ve
been married for long enough for me to sense when he’s unimpressed, even in the
dark.
So, yeah. Seven minutes would be AWESOME.
Sunday, March 4, 2012
The language of us all
from here |
I recently watched a fascinating documentary on SBS called
The Musical Brain; if you’re into
music or brains or documentaries, I highly recommend this one. In it, a doctor
points out that humans are the only species who can synchronise their movements
to music (how interesting is that?!), and the results of one of the experiments mentioned earlier in the
documentary suggest that “the more we respond to a piece of music by moving to
it, the more we activate the pleasure circuits of the brain, which in turn
stimulate the release of Dopamine, the so-called ‘feel good’ hormone.” I wonder
if anyone’s started dancing sessions for depressed people? (THIS COULD BE MY CALLING! I’d name my group The Moody Groovers.)
I love music, although watching this documentary made
me realise that describing yourself as someone who loves music is as
un-profound as declaring that you have a heartbeat or are a human being. I love
that music can turn a traffic jam into an opportunity to sing at the top of
your voice for a little while longer, and
dinner preparation into a chance to boogie in your kitchen using a salt shaker for a microphone. I love that when my
son was much younger, Beck’s Lost Cause
could stop his wails much faster than any shushing or soothing on my part. I
love that it’s almost impossible to not bop to some songs, and that my list of
bopping songs will differ to yours. I can’t imagine how awesome the
music in heaven will be, but I’m eager to find out; a group of people (no
matter how small) singing the “We’ve no less days to sing God’s praise” line of
Amazing Grace invariably makes me
tear up.
Learning to play an instrument is up the priority end
of my bucket list, but I’ve never had the patience to stick at any for long
enough to see encouraging progress. My guitar and djembe drum – both presents from my “I
will embrace whatever craze you mention”-super-supportive husband – are currently in our lounge room for decoration rather than music-making. My husband tried to give me guitar lessons
himself a couple of years ago, but he was a no-nonsense teacher and I was an all-nonsense student; the sessions did not go well.
I look forward to watching my son’s taste in music develop as he grows. At the moment he’ll dance to whatever’s playing, and I take joy in introducing him to a wide range of artists, from The Beatles to Beyonce to Birds of Tokyo to Ben Harper to Boys II Men. This is the only home-schooling subject I feel partly qualified to teach so I’ve started it early, playing Nelly when Daddy’s not around to mock us, and Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds when Daddy is around so that he’s satisfied with his son’s musical education. I try to vary our car music, but nothing quietens my bored boy quite like Play School; I’m not sure whether I should be bothered by the fact that I always know which song is coming up next on that CD but I still struggle to find 2 Peter in my Bible.
I look forward to watching my son’s taste in music develop as he grows. At the moment he’ll dance to whatever’s playing, and I take joy in introducing him to a wide range of artists, from The Beatles to Beyonce to Birds of Tokyo to Ben Harper to Boys II Men. This is the only home-schooling subject I feel partly qualified to teach so I’ve started it early, playing Nelly when Daddy’s not around to mock us, and Nick Cave and the Bad Seeds when Daddy is around so that he’s satisfied with his son’s musical education. I try to vary our car music, but nothing quietens my bored boy quite like Play School; I’m not sure whether I should be bothered by the fact that I always know which song is coming up next on that CD but I still struggle to find 2 Peter in my Bible.
Thinking about the amount of good music in the world
overwhelms me, and sometimes I get sad when I realise that there are brilliant
songs in Iceland (for example) that I’ll (probably) never get a chance to hear.
But I turn my stereo up loud and cut a rug to Love Like Semtex by The Infidels or Two Shoes by The Cat Empire or The
Salmon Dance by The Chemical Brothers and then I feel much, much better.
Friday, March 2, 2012
Gratitude, Part Two: The Practicalities
I’m pretty sure it’s No Compromise (Keith Green’s biography)* in which there’s a woman
who drives everyone crazy by saying things like, “We’re out of milk, praise
God!”. This is one part of what I’m aiming for now: acknowledging God’s involvement in
the small and seemingly insignificant moments that don’t go my way. It will
take a lot of retraining to respond to fresh crises and disappointments with
the same kind of thankfulness that springs up so naturally in happy moments, but I expect I'll have daily opportunities to strengthen my thankful-muscles.
The second part of my goal is the harder one: I want to acknowledge God's involvement in and become deeply thankful for the big trials that have left me bruised and occasionally bitter. Though my head’s on board with the logic behind this aim, my heart's finding it much harder to accept; there are things I don’t yet feel ready to give thanks for. Like forgiveness, I think learning to be thankful for some things will be a slow and lengthy hike in the right direction, with God holding my hand and catching my stumbles each step of the way.
I tested Him yesterday, sitting on the lounge room floor in meditation position (it seemed the most serious and focussed to take) and listing the things I was not-really-but-trying-to-be thankful to Him for. It hurt, I cried, but God showed up, as requested. It ended up being less scary than I’d expected, although I imagine it’ll be just as hard to repeat that prayer next time I work up the courage, and the time after that and the time after that. But then maybe the time after that will be a tiny bit easier, and by the time I’m grey and wrinkly my thanks to God for all that’s been will flow spontaneously and sincerely.
The second part of my goal is the harder one: I want to acknowledge God's involvement in and become deeply thankful for the big trials that have left me bruised and occasionally bitter. Though my head’s on board with the logic behind this aim, my heart's finding it much harder to accept; there are things I don’t yet feel ready to give thanks for. Like forgiveness, I think learning to be thankful for some things will be a slow and lengthy hike in the right direction, with God holding my hand and catching my stumbles each step of the way.
I tested Him yesterday, sitting on the lounge room floor in meditation position (it seemed the most serious and focussed to take) and listing the things I was not-really-but-trying-to-be thankful to Him for. It hurt, I cried, but God showed up, as requested. It ended up being less scary than I’d expected, although I imagine it’ll be just as hard to repeat that prayer next time I work up the courage, and the time after that and the time after that. But then maybe the time after that will be a tiny bit easier, and by the time I’m grey and wrinkly my thanks to God for all that’s been will flow spontaneously and sincerely.
Maybe one day in future I'll respond to new batches of suffering a little more like Jesus, who “entrusted himself to him who judges justly” (1 Peter 2:23) and who fell on the ground at Gethsemane and cried out to God, “I really don’t want to do this, but I totally will if that’s what You want” (or words to that effect, in Matthew 26:39). And maybe one day in future I'll look a little more like Joseph, who, after messing with his brothers (as if tempted to make them pay just a little bit for what they did to him) and crying a lot**, comes to a point where he can say, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good” (Genesis 50:20). I’m not there yet. I’m not even close to being there. But I do trust God (“I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!”***) so I’m lacing up my hiking boots.
I hope God packs snacks****.
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* I ought to check information like this before posting. You should read this book, though, it's pretty inspiring. Just don't read the plane chapter in public, because you'll cry large, ploppy tears everywhere and embarrass yourself.
** Genesis 42:24, 43:30, 45:14, in case you wanted proof.
*** Mark 9:24
*** Mark 9:24
**** I don't even know what this metaphor means, but I love imagining us trekking along side by side, and God saying, "Hey, I brought banana chips!" and me saying, "Yay, I LOOOVE banana chips!" and Him saying, "I know!!!"
Thursday, March 1, 2012
Gratitude, Part One: The Problem
from here |
A couple of Saturdays ago, my mum cried, “Thank you,
Lord!” as we noted that the predicted storm had held off for her birthday party. It made
me uncomfortable in the same way I felt after my husband came home after his
exams last year and thanked God for giving him the perfect questions: “What
about the people who studied really, really hard but don’t have your uncanny knack for guessing what the examiners will
ask?!” I protested. And what about the people who were desperate for rain that
Saturday? For a while now I’ve felt guilty each time I've thanked God for
things that may have benefited me while disappointing someone else, somewhere,
as if He’s involved in one but not the other. My mum’s comment finally forced me to confront these icky feelings and work out a better response.
I know that part of the right response is to continue to thank God for good things, and to encourage and allow others to do likewise without freaking out; I wholeheartedly believe James when he says
that “[e]very good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father
of the heavenly lights” (1:17). I should
thank God for beautiful weather and perfect exam questions and the health of my
child and the food and clothes and shelter I enjoy every day, knowing it all
comes from Him.
I also wholeheartedly believe Paul when he says in Romans that
“in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been
called according to his purpose” (8:28), although I wouldn’t be
surprised if you hadn’t noticed. I respond to the irritations and pains in my
life with dramatic “YOU’RE SO MEAN TO ME, GOD!”s rather than submissive, “Your
will be done”s. It doesn’t come naturally to thank God for the day-to-day
things that don’t seem to go my way (a dwindling bank balance, my hair dryer
dying the day after I decide to chop
myself a fringe); it’s well-nigh impossible to respond with gratitude to the things
that continue to haunt and hurt me after many years (the effects of my parents’
divorce and remarriages, the disproportionate size of my nose).
But if I really do believe that God is transforming
and redeeming all of these sad and annoying things in my life for my good and for His glory, then
I have to thank Him for them, too. To
do any less is equal to declaring to God that I don’t actually trust Him. While
reading a section from Cornelius Plantinga’s Not the Way
It's Supposed to Be: A Breviary of Sin for my college subject the other day, I came
across this paragraph (on page 22): “A
thoroughly ungrateful person... may be ungrateful without having in any way
chosen to be so... Her ingratitude is scarcely under her control in at least
these respects and hence can be said to be involuntary. But it is also clearly
sinful. If the ingrate were to detect her flaw and see its unloveliness, she
would rightly feel obliged to confess and repent of it.” As is usually the
case, I was applying my readings to everyone but myself until I was stung by
this passage.
I have to learn to be
thankful in all things because to not trust and thank God in the rough times is an unlovely sin to be confessed and repented of. I’d like to think I’m not “thoroughly”
ungrateful, but the Holy Spirit’s sharp poke to my heart let me know clearly
that I’m ungrateful enough. Also, if I honestly believe Romans 8:28, then to not
live by that truth makes me unlovely, ungrateful and
a hypocrite. If my faith is to have any integrity at all, I must give thanks
for everything God is doing in my life, in the lows as well as the highs, the
hurts as well as the joys. How else can I prove to others in this world that I
truly believe God is bigger than the yukky stuff, that Jesus has conquered sin
and death and pain and fear?
*Hyperventilates*
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