tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958681132670953956.post4609297350465507735..comments2023-10-24T07:11:18.349+11:00Comments on Belle's Elbows: GirlyAhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13820950768379899327noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958681132670953956.post-48673249441246199772016-01-29T22:24:28.127+11:002016-01-29T22:24:28.127+11:00I think you're a thoughtful, responsive, refle...I think you're a thoughtful, responsive, reflective, authentic parent and that your children are so lucky to have you in their lives :)Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09631625335862178614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958681132670953956.post-56408202879641716432016-01-10T18:41:30.053+11:002016-01-10T18:41:30.053+11:00Have just done my usual catchup on your blog. So g...Have just done my usual catchup on your blog. So good to hear you are all going well. But it does make me miss you. Am sure Hazel will be ok. She will have you and other bright, strong women to provide her with role models. I doubt she will accept the idea that some roles/jobs are not for women . Or that men are better at certain things solely because they are men. Let her wear dresses if she likes and eventually she will wear shorts or at least wear shorts under her dresses so she can do the things she wants to do. Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14946178737693682554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958681132670953956.post-19065700875637276032016-01-08T04:27:39.445+11:002016-01-08T04:27:39.445+11:00p.s. All of that was a long winded way of saying I...p.s. All of that was a long winded way of saying I'm sure your daughter will turn out fine!! Yang-Enhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06494614796607503826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958681132670953956.post-41961294716735870442016-01-07T22:00:25.400+11:002016-01-07T22:00:25.400+11:00haha! yes, all the time! I've always admired c...haha! yes, all the time! I've always admired colourful, bright people but felt too timid to be one of them. And then about a year ago, as I approached turning 30, I thought 'stuff that! I will be as bold and colourful as I damn well please.' I HOPE I can be both an interesting person and an interesting-looking person. One of my friends who is in her 60s has crazy hair and amazing clothes, and it makes me so cheerful to see her being vibrant, and totally, completely 'age-inappropriate' and it seems to make her happy too. Sometimes my colourful exterior encourages me to be more smiley on days when I'd rather be glum, even if for no other reason than it encourages other people to smile at me. <br /><br />Of course I love the compliments!! and yes I often do feel pressure to be fabulous when often I just want to have greasy hair and wear my trakkies, and yes I want to be slimmer and have longer legs, and a nicer looking face. BUT, it does make me cheerful to look at my colourful reflection in the mirror! Since I have consciously chosen to aim for fabulous-colourful, rather than pretty-thin, I have felt more excited about being me than ever before. (It's only taken 30 long years to get to this point...) I had to make some emergency colourful op-shop purchases in Paris because it was making me glum to look at my black self every day - and that was an action about my appearance I made purely for my own enjoyment and no-one else's. I bought fluro shoelaces the other day, and they are making me smile way more than anything else I have seen in Paris so far! Best 5 Euros I've spent. I love looking at colourful interesting people and being inspired to be brighter and bolder. Just like these ladies: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100007608764364&sk=photos&collection_token=100007608764364%3A2305272732%3A69&set=a.1629677723962504.1073741938.100007608764364&type=3&pnref=story Yang-Enhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06494614796607503826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958681132670953956.post-43870300170966443502016-01-07T21:14:39.028+11:002016-01-07T21:14:39.028+11:00Actually, it strikes me that you must get comments...Actually, it strikes me that you must get comments about your looks ALL THE TIME. How long have you had turquoise hair for? Do you think that's had an effect on your self-esteem? Are you Yang-En-with-the-awesome-hair, as opposed to Yang-En-the-awesome-artist? Or both? Does that matter to you? You don't have to answer any of these questions here (or at all), but I'd be really interested to hear how people respond to your appearance and what that means for you identity/self-esteem-wise...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958681132670953956.post-79248171152070242192016-01-07T21:08:11.331+11:002016-01-07T21:08:11.331+11:00That actually is encouraging, thank you.That actually is encouraging, thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3958681132670953956.post-89251285855370028272016-01-07T20:38:56.876+11:002016-01-07T20:38:56.876+11:00I don't have any answers for you but if it mak...I don't have any answers for you but if it makes you feel better, despite my parents' best efforts I was all about the glitter, pink, princesses and tulle when I was young, and I don't think it was all about wanting to be like my friends or receiving compliments, because I still go weak at the knees when I see lace, silky, glittery things (and generally only refrain from wearing all of them at once for fear of being mistaken for a drag queen) although these days I am more about the turquoise than the pink. <br /><br />It bothered me a lot when I was a teenager that my mum was so totally disinterested in fashion or cosmetics because it seemed like something my friends and their mothers could bond over. I still find it weird how disinterested she is in colour and fashion, and it would be nice if I could share that with someone in my family, but I can respect our differences a bit more now. Despite my love of pink and dreams of becoming a princess, I have grown up to become a feminist - although this hasn't really made me any less trapped or pressured by social norms, I can just recognise and feebly-halfheartedly resist them. Sorry, none of that was very helpful or encouraging!! Yang-Enhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06494614796607503826noreply@blogger.com